Don't go overboard for your lady.
Here's the secret: If you really want to impress your lady on Valentine's Day, give her something small every day for the entire week of Valentine's Day.
Here's why: Women and men "keep score" in relationships in very different ways from one another. Women will give one point for everything they consider a good deed, no matter how big or small. Bringing home a $15 Chinese dinner has the same point value (1 point) as bringing home a $100 steak dinner (1 point). One accumulates points by doing something small more often to express his or her care. For example, one flower per day for seven days = 7 points. Seven flowers at one time = 1 point.
Go big or go home for your man.
Here's the secret: Make your man feel special when you need to make him feel special: Valentine's Day, his birthday, and Christmas. Take it easy the rest of the year.
Here's why: Men's internal scorekeepers are a little different from women's. Men are able to give more than one point for what they consider a good deed. Points can then be stored in their internal point vaults to be accessed whenever necessary. One accumulates points by doing something bigger but less often to express his or her care. This Valentine's Day, making him a steak dinner (50 points), giving him the latest technology (100 points), and planning an intimate evening (or whatever else is very special to him worth 500 points) will probably rack up enough points to last for quite some time.
I'm no marriage counselor, but I've read some books. Relationship Expert Mark Gungor knows what I'm talking about... Watch his lecture here.
Wishing many love points upon you,
Katie :)
P.S. Related post: Single Ladies' Guide to Enjoying Valentine's Day. Photo at the top of this post courtesy of Jenn Aycox, Photographer.
