Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Valentine's Day: How to Even-out the Score

Valentine's Day is one of my favorite holidays (Hallmark holiday or not). It is an opportunity to express to what extent we care about one another, which is why many feel pressured to have extravagant plans for their partners on February 14th. I'm here to tell you why it's OK not to stress over your plans yet still have a meaningful way to say "I Love You."

Don't go overboard for your lady.
Here's the secret: If you really want to impress your lady on Valentine's Day, give her something small every day for the entire week of Valentine's Day.

Here's why: Women and men "keep score" in relationships in very different ways from one another. Women will give one point for everything they consider a good deed, no matter how big or small.  Bringing home a $15 Chinese dinner has the same point value (1 point) as bringing home a $100 steak dinner (1 point).  One accumulates points by doing something small more often to express his or her care. For example, one flower per day for seven days = 7 points. Seven flowers at one time = 1 point.

Go big or go home for your man.
Here's the secret: Make your man feel special when you need to make him feel special: Valentine's Day, his birthday, and Christmas. Take it easy the rest of the year.

Here's why: Men's internal scorekeepers are a little different from women's.  Men are able to give more than one point for what they consider a good deed. Points can then be stored in their internal point vaults to be accessed whenever necessary.  One accumulates points by doing something bigger but less often to express his or her care. This Valentine's Day, making him a steak dinner (50 points), giving him the latest technology (100 points), and planning an intimate evening (or whatever else is very special to him worth 500 points) will probably rack up enough points to last for quite some time.

I'm no marriage counselor, but I've read some books.  Relationship Expert Mark Gungor knows what I'm talking about... Watch his lecture here.



Wishing many love points upon you,
Katie :)



P.S. Related post: Single Ladies' Guide to Enjoying Valentine's Day.  Photo at the top of this post courtesy of Jenn Aycox, Photographer.

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Life: My Sugar-Free Diet

Here's my interview with myself about my sugar-free diet.  It's just an introduction, for my own records, if nothing else. Enjoy!

Why would you take sugar out of your diet?
For as long as I can remember, I've had a daily struggle with sinus congestion, chest congestion, and headaches.  After a number of useless doctor appointments, ineffective medications, and even a painful nasal surgery (that may have made things worse), I decided to take matters into my own hands.  I learned in a college Nutrition class that almost all ailments can either be cured or lessened in severity with diet alone.  Thus begun my determination to cure my mild symptoms with my diet.

How do you think eliminating sugar will help the problem?
You are what you eat!  I cannot stress that enough.  Nearly everything you ingest becomes a part of the make-up of your body.  It sounds trivial, but we seem to forget this concept when sitting in the McDonald's drive-thru with growling tummies. Keeping this in mind, I considered the substances in my diet that could be potentially harmful: processed food and fast food. These foods usually offer little nutritional value (fiber, protein, vitamins, minerals, etc.). If they do have nutritional value, they usually also include tremendous amounts of potentially harmful ingredients (hydrogenated oils, saturated fats, sugar, high fructose corn syrup, etc.).  Eliminating sugar from my diet will help me avoid these types of foods and, hopefully, provide me with relief from my sinus congestion.

How do you plan on going about this new diet?
I decided to use a step-system (making a series of smaller goals to achieve a larger long-term goal).  I'm starting by eliminating sugar from my diet.  Or, so I thought. Turns out, EVERYTHING has sugar in it.  Even at work, I had to start packing my lunch because few quick-service restaurants close by that offered healthy/sugar-free options.  Alas, I have decided to begin by eliminating white sugar only and choosing more whole-grain products (whole-grain bagels from Panera Bread are my favorite now).  Fructose and Lactose are acceptable forms of sugar for me.  Visit ChooseMyPlate.gov for information about healthy eating and customizing a diet for your needs.

Isn't it difficult to follow a sugar-free diet? Have you ever "relapsed?" 
I found it particularly difficult to follow the diet over the holidays, while on vacation, and when I'm with friends who aren't following the same diet. Even though I've had a few slip-ups, I feel healthier than ever. By significantly reducing my sugar intake, I have unintentionally tricked myself into drinking more water and eating a variety of vegetables, fruit, and meats.  The longer I go without consuming processed sugar, the less I desire to consume it because I don't want to sacrifice how healthy I feel for a few minutes of indulgence. Here's a great basic guacamole recipe for a delicious sugar-free snack.

How do you cope with cravings?
If you have sugar/chocolate cravings, you probably aren't getting enough to eat during the day and your body has used up all the carbohydrates you gave it for breakfast.  Because you aren't eating enough, your body craves the most basic forms of carbohydrates (aka, sugar) for energy.  This is the reason why many people have night-time sugar cravings.  If you are able to maintain a variety of carbs throughout the day, you can significantly reduce your cravings.  Things like vegetables, whole grain breads and noodles, and fruits will provide variety.  I notice myself getting hungry about every two or three hours, but if I have a healthy snack or meal at that time, I eliminate the desire to eat everything in sight at the end of the day.  Check out WebMD's tips for controlling sugar cravings.

Lots of love and healthy choices,
Katie

P.S. I forgot to mention: I've also lost weight (which wasn't the intention, but it doesn't hurt).  In just a couple weeks, friends have noticed a difference and have been complimenting my appearance. Compliments never hurt! :)

Treats: Guacamole

Here's a basic recipe for homemade guacamole.

  • 2 ripe avocados (They should be slightly squishy before you cut them.  Here's a YouTube video on how to cut your avocado.)
  • 1/2 cup minced red onion (We use red onion because it's a little less sharp than white onion when raw.  If you use white onion, it's all you will taste in your Guac.)
  • 1-2 serrano chiles, stems and seeds removed, minced (If you don't want it spicy, eliminate this ingredient)
  • 2 tablespoons cilantro leaves, finely chopped 
  • 1 tablespoon of fresh lime juice
  • 1/2 teaspoon coarse salt
  • a dash of grated black pepper
  • 1/2 ripe tomato, seeds and pulp removed, chopped

Combine ingredients in a bowl and mash to a dip-like consistency; however chunky or paste-like you prefer.  Serve with all-natural tortilla chips (check the ingredients!).

Yum! :)

Love,
Katie